The Southern C x Badass Women’s Book Club: November 2022
Stop Being the Best Kept Secret: Moving from Self-Doubt to Self-Promotion
by Gina Warner, founder of Badass Women’s Book Club
A few weeks ago, I was asked to present a workshop about helping women be
more comfortable “putting themselves out there”. In searching for a title, I came
upon this photo and decided it captured what the real problem is.
The problem is not that women aren’t qualified or haven’t done the work. It is
that – like so many women before us – we are just sitting back waiting for
someone to notice. And believe me – it’s not our fault. This waiting to be
recognized and rewarded is something that’s conditioned in us way back in
elementary school. (Check out this article – Why Girls Beat Boys at School and Lose to Them at the Office).
I’ve been very open about my own struggles with self doubt and how I rely on
books to help me. Here are the badass books I turn to time and again in my
coaching and in my own personal and professional development –
You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
I’ve been very vocal about how reading this book set me on a new path. If you are
not familiar with my story, you can read it here.
You Are a Badass is an entertaining how-to guide, served up in 27 bite-sized
chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and the
occasional swear word, helping you identify and change the self-sabotaging
beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want and create a life
you totally love. You can read more and get your copy here.
Your Inner Critic is a Big Jerk by Danielle Krysa
This is a book written for artists and other creatives, but I find the message
universally appealing. Pay particular attention to the “Buckets of Lies We Tell
Ourselves”. You can read more about this book and get your copy here.
Brag Better by Meredith Fineman
This book was our January 2021 Badass Women’s Book Club book and it is chock-
full of great stories and strategies. I really like the concept of finding your
“superpower words” on page 52. You can read more about this book and get your
Sabotage by Emma Gannon
Such a small book – but such a powerful message! Sabotage goes beyond direct
actions – it’s the words you say, the times you defer to others. You can read more
about this book and get your copy here.
The Likeability Trap by Alicia Menendez
Choosing to be well-liked too often means choosing to be underappreciated and
unnoticed. This book has some great strategies to try to balance the two. You can
read more about this book and get your copy here.
Feminist Fight Club by Jessica Bennett
When in doubt, be like Josh. You can read more about this book and get your
Big Friendship by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow
While promoting yourself, what can you do to promote other women? And why
does that matter? (“We were tired of watching our male colleagues get priority
boarding on the professional rocket ship, while we were on standby in the
boarding area.”) “Shine Theory” is a concept created by Ann Friedmann and
Aminatou Sow. You can read about it in Chapter 4 of their book, Big Friendship,
and on their Call Your Girlfriend podcast.
What are some badass books you recommend for dealing with issues like this?
Shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’m always looking to
recommend the best books for badass women, by badass women