How to Receive a Gift
They say ’tis better to give than receive, but in many ways I think the adage is wrong. In my opinion, ’tis often easier to give, instead of better. There’s something about receiving gifts that is hard for many people, myself included.
I wrote in the past about how to receive a compliment, but this goes a little deeper than that.
While recently traveling to New Jersey for a work training, I invited my mom to come along so we could extend my trip by a day or so and do some holiday sightseeing in NYC.
My first inclination for lodging was to go with what I knew. I investigated the option of staying at the Paul, a hotel I had stayed at previously. In May when we’d visted, that hotel was available at a decent price and even though our room wasn’t huge, it was hip and close to lots of things. And the beds were super comfy. But during the trip with my mom, the rates were more than double what they’d been earlier in the year.
After extensive Internet searches, including checking prices, various locations, and tons of online reviews, I found a hotel that seemed like a good option. It was decently priced, not too far from our point of arrival & departure (Penn Station) and had gorgeous photos online. Plus the other folks who had stayed there had positive things to say.
I selected a small, modest room knowing we wouldn’t be spending a ton of time there anyway.
When we arrived at the check-in desk, the hotel staffer told us in what seemed to me an apologetic tone, that she’d had to upgrade us to a different room, a loft. Even though the word upgrade would seemingly mean a better room, at the word loft I imagined my college dorm, with wooden bunked beds crammed in above tiny compact desks below. Oh well, I thought. Our trip is short and we don’t want to spend a bunch of time in the hotel room anyway.
When we got off the elevator on the eighth floor and walked around the corner to room 808, I thought to myself….don’t be disappointed if this isn’t anything special. We’re just lucky to be here.
Then we entered our loft. In the foyer, the walls were covered with a gorgeous black and gold art deco wallpaper, and there was a cool lithograph as well as a giant round gold mirror. That opened into a spacious living room and kitchen with sleek stainless appliances and a wide island with three stools.
In the living room was a white leather sofa, a big round marble coffee table and on the wall was mounted a television four times the size of mine at home.
Big windows and a set of French doors opened onto a balcony with chairs overlooking the skyline. Down the hall was a roomy bedroom with a king bed. And across from it, a bathroom much larger than either of the ones at our own houses. It was covered in beautiful gray and white subway tile and had a big soaking tub on the left and a glass encased shower on the right.
My mom and I figured there must have been some mistake. This couldn’t be our room.
“She did say she had to upgrade us,” my mom said.
“Yeah, but this is more than just a simple upgrade,” I replied.
This is unreal.
“Oh well, you should always look for little gifts and unexpected blessings at every turn,” said my mom. She’s pretty wise that mother of mine.
On the last morning of our trip, after my training had ended and we were free to have our big day in the city, I sat on the comfy leather sofa in that giant hotel living room, sipping espresso from our self serve machine and trying to prepare to soak up every moment of the day ahead.
I found myself thinking about the gift of the experience, including the incredible hotel room we’d never have otherwise chosen for ourselves had it not been for a happy accident and our fortuitous upgrade.
Here’s what it got me thinking about receiving gifts:
1) Gifts can come without warning when we least expect them.
2) Thinking we don’t deserve them or they are too good to be true will only rob us of the joy of receiving and enjoying something we weren’t expecting.
3) Acting like or believing we did something to earn them or deserve them removes God from the equation. They cease to be a blessing and become a barter system. We set down a dangerous path of working harder to receive things that we would have gotten anyway.
4) There is no shortage of gifts. If we miss one, there’s infinitely more to come.
5) Gifts never come in exactly the same packages or the same way. One day a gift might be the opportunity to stay in a fancy hotel room that costs more than twice what you paid for it. Another day it might be a WWII veteran at a convenience store who thinks he knows you and greets you with a warm handshake and “It sure is good to see you. It’s been too long.” This will bless your heart in so many ways.
6) If we focus on what we perceive to be the negative, we will lose our ability to see all the gifts around us that are right in front of our noses. Kind of like the Timothy Busfield’s character in Field of Dreams who couldn’t see the baseball players while they were practicing on the field only a few feet away.
7) If we thinks gifts come with strings attached, it is often because we are guilty of giving gifts with strings attached. Cut the strings and just enjoy the gift.
8) Life will always be an adventure if you believe another gift is just around the corner. You won’t know what to expect but it will be wonderful never-the-less.
9) Giving a gift brings joy to the giver. Accept any and all gifts with grace and gratitude.
You will likely receive at least one gift this holiday season. You’ll probably give a gift too. Maybe just keep these things in mind.